Entangled in The Web of Love
nope... i'm not referring to me... dont worry, i'm still much single and available... just feel like posting something on the mysterious affair called 'LOVE'... actually spurred by something tat happen recently!! haha.. u all can guess wat happen.. i'm not gonna say anything..
i wont claim myself to be some Love guru, or expert in Relationship or some counsellor for problematic BGR... after all i'm only in a relationship for once, and it dont last very long... however, i do have friends who are in various stage of relationship, form just dating to happily married to enduring break-up etc etc...
still remember my previous post on LOVE?? well here is the link... scroll to the November 14th entry... just wanna add on to tat...
in relationship, there is no who is right and who is wrong... if a couple break-up, it just means they r not meant to be together... even though one party may be at fault, but have u asked yourself, r u totally not wrong at all? yesh, u may have contributed alot, sacrifice alot for the relationship, but tat doesnt mean tat the relationship gonna last...
there r much more than sacrifice... just like trust (which means u dont go around spying on your partner or something similar)... oh yah, if u want ppl to trust u, u have to trust tat person too and earn tat trust too!! u dont go around wanting ppl to trust u yet u doubt him/her at the same time!! tat is just not right!! another way to show trust is to discuss any prob in the relationship face to face and immediately... u dont bottled up for very long then explode one day... couples have to go through alot of hurdles... one way to make it easier is to discuss the prob immediately and try to solve it ASAP!! dont bottled up and wait...
oh yah, another very common reason ppl wanna breakup is because of, well, tat other party been going out with other friends... hahha... sound silly... well, being in a relationship also means he/she has his/her own personal life... he/she can have his/her own opposite sex friends... and they may be closed too!! yesh, it is true, u may want to, u know, keep a bit of distance, but how far the distance is determined by your partner, u have absolutely no right to interfere with who he/she make friends with and who he/she go out with or when he/she go out... if u cannot tolerate it, then both of u just have to work something out!!
oh yah... last but not least... when break-up, please, please, please dont make it so draggy... if u wanna break-up, then do a clean one... u dont have to rake up wat u had done or how much u have sacrifice... all this doesnt matter anymore from the moment u said u wanna break-up... once again, in relationship, there is no right or wrong... u yourself wanna do so much and sacrifice so much, nobody force u... so dont rake tat up when u wanna break-up... nobody gonna sympatise with u!! dont try to make yourself pitiful, your partner wont come back to u... and nobody gonna pity u anyway... SO ONE LAST ADVICE, IF WANNA BREAK-UP, DO A NICE AND CLEAN ONE... MOVE ON PLEAZZZEEE
PS - why am i blogging about all this stuff on a christmas day?? i also dont know... suddenly got emotional!! maybe more on love coming up... just maybe... cos now is the season for love, so now i got very emotional and just wanna blog about love!!! whee~~ merry christmas everyone!!
i wont claim myself to be some Love guru, or expert in Relationship or some counsellor for problematic BGR... after all i'm only in a relationship for once, and it dont last very long... however, i do have friends who are in various stage of relationship, form just dating to happily married to enduring break-up etc etc...
still remember my previous post on LOVE?? well here is the link... scroll to the November 14th entry... just wanna add on to tat...
in relationship, there is no who is right and who is wrong... if a couple break-up, it just means they r not meant to be together... even though one party may be at fault, but have u asked yourself, r u totally not wrong at all? yesh, u may have contributed alot, sacrifice alot for the relationship, but tat doesnt mean tat the relationship gonna last...
there r much more than sacrifice... just like trust (which means u dont go around spying on your partner or something similar)... oh yah, if u want ppl to trust u, u have to trust tat person too and earn tat trust too!! u dont go around wanting ppl to trust u yet u doubt him/her at the same time!! tat is just not right!! another way to show trust is to discuss any prob in the relationship face to face and immediately... u dont bottled up for very long then explode one day... couples have to go through alot of hurdles... one way to make it easier is to discuss the prob immediately and try to solve it ASAP!! dont bottled up and wait...
oh yah, another very common reason ppl wanna breakup is because of, well, tat other party been going out with other friends... hahha... sound silly... well, being in a relationship also means he/she has his/her own personal life... he/she can have his/her own opposite sex friends... and they may be closed too!! yesh, it is true, u may want to, u know, keep a bit of distance, but how far the distance is determined by your partner, u have absolutely no right to interfere with who he/she make friends with and who he/she go out with or when he/she go out... if u cannot tolerate it, then both of u just have to work something out!!
oh yah... last but not least... when break-up, please, please, please dont make it so draggy... if u wanna break-up, then do a clean one... u dont have to rake up wat u had done or how much u have sacrifice... all this doesnt matter anymore from the moment u said u wanna break-up... once again, in relationship, there is no right or wrong... u yourself wanna do so much and sacrifice so much, nobody force u... so dont rake tat up when u wanna break-up... nobody gonna sympatise with u!! dont try to make yourself pitiful, your partner wont come back to u... and nobody gonna pity u anyway... SO ONE LAST ADVICE, IF WANNA BREAK-UP, DO A NICE AND CLEAN ONE... MOVE ON PLEAZZZEEE
PS - why am i blogging about all this stuff on a christmas day?? i also dont know... suddenly got emotional!! maybe more on love coming up... just maybe... cos now is the season for love, so now i got very emotional and just wanna blog about love!!! whee~~ merry christmas everyone!!
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